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  Make Sure

How to Get the Most Out of Know For Sure

The fact that you are taking this course suggests you have someone in your life that is special to you. You may call this person your boyfriend or girlfriend, significant other, your soul mate, or “the one,” but however you describe him or her, you’re pretty sure you may have found the person you want to marry.

If that’s the case, I’m excited for you! Over the years I’ve married hundreds of couples and watched them head off into the adventure of life together. And I’ve also learned a few things along the way that could help you be sure – before you get married – that you’ve found the right person to marry. That’s what this course is all about.

Course Goal

The goal of this course is to help you confidently make this huge decision that will impact the rest of your life. Through these twelve sessions I want to help you know for sure what the best next step is in the relationship you are in. I want to help you go into marriage knowing you are doing the right thing.

Course Format

The format of these twelve sessions is simple. To get the most out of each session I’d suggest you do the following:

  1. Run off a hard copy of the video worksheet if you want to take notes during the videos. Then for each lesson...
  2. Watch the short video where I talk about the topic of each session.
  3. Read through the expanded information you'll find under the video.
  4. Think about the topic and your answers to the questions I ask at the end of each video. If appropriate, it could be really helpful to spend some time talking about it with the person you are considering marrying. But if that’s not a good idea for some reason, simply work through the information on your own.
  5. Jot down any final thoughts and notes related to anything you feel you should think about or discuss further.

Significant Value

These twelve sessions will give you the basic information you would receive if you were a part of the live counseling sessions I have with couples who are considering getting married. But since you will be doing this on your own or as a couple, how much you get out of it will depend on how much effort you put into it. So I want to encourage you to make the most of the information and your times of reflection or discussion.

The value of these sessions will also directly correlate with how honest you are with yourself and with your significant other. If you are answering questions and discussing things together, giving an answer that isn’t really true, or not expressing a concern you have - possibly because you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings - will do more damage in the long run than good. So do your best to be honest and work through any issues as they come up along the way. Hard or deep discussions don't mean that you shouldn't get married. In fact, they can be great practice for dealing with other difficult issues that will definitely come up once you’re married!

Anticipated Outcome

My hope is that as you work through this course, whether you are going through it on your own or as a couple, you will come out on the other side knowing without any doubts that the two of you are ready to get married!

Question From Opening Video to Discuss:

On their own, how do you think couples usually decide if they’re ready to get married?

On a scale of 1-10, how sure are you that you've found the right person to marry?

Do you think counseling or a course like Know For Sure could help you make that decision?